I’m a parent, and something I see that breaks my heart is how many parents out there have unresolved pain, unresolved hurt, and unresolved loss. Some of us have lost people dear to us in tragic ways. We have unfinished business with those losses, and we want to play it safe with our kids because of the fear of losing them.

Unresolved loss and pain are life-limiting, and they rob us of choice. They rob us of the opportunity of letting our kids live life to its fullest. They rob us of the intention to be the example of living life to the fullest. We want to play it safe for us. We want to play it safe for them, and that’s not what we need to do for our kids. We have to be the example of how to live openly – openly communicate with people, live life to the fullest, and take the risks we want to take to live the life we want.

We have to let our kids have their own governor on the playgrounds. We must let them play outdoors more, not just look at screens all day watching someone else’s adventure because it’s safer. We have to let them learn how to live their own adventure, how to live their own life. They can only do it with our example.

So, if you have unresolved pain and loss in your life, you have to know what to do with it. You must say goodbye to that hurt and that pain. Your kids feel it. They see it. They emulate it. They put it into their belief system. It’s not fair. We have to do things daily to prevent ourselves from transferring our pain to them.  

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